#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS How are all of you doing today? I hope that you woke up on the right side of the bed, with pep in your step, and the sun shining directly on you! If today’s warm welcome isn’t evidence enough, I am proud to announce that my pity party has officially ended! I am ready to return to planet optimism and to continue my favorite activities: smiling and laughing! I’m walkin on sunshine! If you read my blogs in real time, you’ll know that the last two weeks put the ughhh in tough. The SparkNotes version of the story is that I’m pretty sure the sky was falling, but I survived and I am ready to move the effff AWN! Usually we are all on the same page with our feelings because at this point I think our cycles are fully synced and we have morphed into one, but on the off chance that you are not ready to learn about the art of moving on I still have options for you!! This week is kind of like a choose your own adventure, where you’ll take the advice that you want to hear because I think feeling both are OKAY! Don’t do that awkward walk run thing to feel included, we are all free to feel at our own pace here at Get Real Inc. If you are looking for some advice with a side of feminine rage, I would like to present to you ✨Mystery Door #2✨ Ooh! Aaaah! If you are ready to smell the flowers and put the purrr in perky, keep reading! Whichever rollercoaster adventure you decide to choose, enjoy the ride grrrlies. Now let’s get into this piping hot TEA!

Worth The Weight?

Letting go starts with identifying what you’re holding onto in the first place. Imagine you’re carrying around a backpack filled with rocks. Each rock represents a grudge, a regret, or an old story you keep telling yourself. Over time, that bag gets heavy. But before you can unload it, you need to know exactly what’s inside. Grab a pen and paper or open up the notes app in your phone. AKA, every grrrl’s secret diary! Start by making a list of everything that’s been weighing on you lately. It could be a specific incident, a toxic relationship, or even something like a bad hair day. Full transparency, i just got layers and I have fully convinced myself that I am bald now. Don’t judge yourself for what’s on the list, this is about acknowledging what’s taking up mental and emotional space. Remember, this isn’t about wallowing in negativity; it’s about awareness. Sometimes, what’s on the surface isn’t the full story. If you’re holding onto something someone said, ask yourself why it bothered you so much. Often, our triggers are connected to deeper insecurities or past experiences. By digging a little deeper, you can get to the root of what’s really bothering you. Now that you have your list, take a moment to review it and see if there are any patterns. Are there recurring themes or similar situations? Maybe you notice a pattern of feeling unappreciated in your relationships, or perhaps there’s a common thread of self-doubt when it comes to pursuing new opportunities. Recognizing these patterns can be eye-opening. It helps you understand that what you’re holding onto might not be isolated incidents, but rather ongoing narratives in your life.

Heart To Heart

Alright, so you’ve got your list and you’ve identified some patterns. Before we can move forward, it’s crucial to give your emotions the space they need. Ignoring or suppressing them will only make them stronger in the long run. Find a quiet space where you can be alone with your thoughts for a little while. This is completely different from the pity party stage, because by now you’re emotions will be less heightened and you can look at them more objectively… and politely ask them to leave. Bye, Felicia! Start a mental dialogue with yourself about each item on your list. Ask questions like, “Why am I holding onto this?” and “How does this make me feel?” This isn’t about solving the problem; it’s about understanding your emotions and giving them a voice. Sometimes, we’re so quick to dismiss our own feelings as irrational or silly, but every emotion has its place. It’s okay to feel upset about something others might see as small or insignificant. Your feelings are valid because they’re yours. Writing can be a powerful tool for processing emotions. If you’re comfortable with it, try journaling about each item on your list. Write freely, without worrying about grammar, spelling, or whether it makes sense. Scribble and just let the words flow. If writing isn’t your thing, find someone you trust and talk their ears off. Sometimes, just saying something out loud can take away some of its power over you. Start small, set a timer for 10 minutes and free-write about one of the things you need to let go of. Don’t stop to edit or censor yourself. Let whatever comes up be okay. Afterward, read what you wrote and notice any insights or patterns that emerge. The goal here isn’t to dwell on the emotion but to let it move through you so it can finally release its grip.

Say Hello To Buh Bye!

Now comes the part where we actually start letting go. And here’s the thing: letting go is not a one-size-fits-all process. What works for someone else might not work for you, and that’s perfectly okay. The key is to find a release method that resonates with you. Physical movement is one of the most effective ways to release pent-up energy and emotions. This doesn’t mean you have to run a marathon or lift heavy weights (unless that’s your jam). It could be as simple as taking a brisk walk, practicing yoga, having a mini dance party, or doing karate in your living room. HIIIII-YAAAAAH! The point is to get out of your head and into your body. When I’m feeling overwhelmed, my go to is my giant over the head headphones and all of my favorite songs. I will dance uncordinatedly until the cows jump over the moon and not care twice about what had me twisted in the first place. Headphones are literally heaven on earth and a gift made from angels! They are the perfect way to immediately create space and block out BS. It might feel silly at first, but that’s the point! Let go of the need to look a certain way or follow any rules. Just move in whatever way feels good to you. If you’re more creatively inclined, use that as a way to process and release emotions. Painting, drawing, writing poetry, or even playing an instrument can be incredibly therapeutic. The act of creating something allows you to externalize your emotions and see them from a different perspective. You don’t have to be Picasso to benefit from creative expression. Try this simple exercise: take a blank piece of paper and some crayons or markers. Without overthinking it, use colors and shapes to represent how you’re feeling. This isn’t about creating something ‘pretty’ or ‘perfect’—it’s about expressing what’s inside you.

Letting go is as much about shifting your focus as it is about releasing something. When we hold onto things, it’s often because we’re trying to control outcomes or situations that are beyond our control. To truly let go, we need to shift our energy to what we can control. Start by identifying areas in your life where you can take action. This might be in how you structure your day, the way you speak to yourself, or the boundaries you set with others. When you focus on what you can control, you create a sense of empowerment and agency in your life. Choose one small, manageable change you can make today. Maybe it’s starting a morning routine that includes five minutes of meditation, or maybe it’s deciding to set a boundary with someone who has been draining your energy. Whatever it is, make it something you can realistically stick to. ake a moment each morning to set an intention for the day. Expectations are often rigid and set us up for disappointment. Intentions, on the other hand, are flexible and focus on how you want to feel rather than on specific outcomes. By setting intentions, you give yourself permission to let go of how things ‘should’ be and embrace whatever comes your way. Now go and be great you lil grrrly pop! TTYL! 

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