#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS IT’S FALL Y’ALL! Seriously, I Googled it and everything to make sure that it was actually fall. In the power rankings of the different seasons, I feel like I have a pretty unpopular opinion, but I will share it anyway because I know my grrrls don’t judge. Okay, my power rankings for the seasons go: Summer (This is very new), Winter I’m a Sag, duh!, Fall, and then Spring. Even though Fall is little miss third place in my heart, something just feels different about this Fall. It’s making me want to say things like “Spooky szn”, “Hey boo! 👻”, and “Can I please get a medium pumpkin spice latte with almond milk, two pumps of vanilla and, and sweet vanilla cold foam on top to go… and two cake pops please! ” As tempted as I am to join team PSL, I have to be completely honest with yet another unpopular opinion: pumpkin spice = gross. I’m soo sorry. I think it’s mainly a PTSD thing for me because in middle school science class we had to carve pumpkins to figure out the velocity of the space-time continuum or something idk and it was sensory OVERLOAD!

They didn’t give us any gloves, no aprons, not even proper utensils! Despite the mess my seventh grade class made that day, I managed to survive and tell the tale about how Fall can actually be pretty cutesy! For starters the air is cooling down, and the trees are trading in their 613 medium knotless butt-length braids for a sleek ginger silk press and suddenly, it feels like everything is in flux. Muva Nature is shedding the old to make space for the new, and that vibe? It’s contagious. But let’s be real: change can be scary. It’s one thing to admire the pretty fall leaves, but another to take that energy and turn it into action in our own lives. Yet, just like the trees, sometimes we have to let go of what no longer serves us to make room for the new. This week, why right now is the best time to embrace change in your life, even if you don’t feel ready (spoiler: you won’t ever feel “ready”), and why believing good things can happen to you is a game-changer.

The Time Is Now

When is the right time to change? We all have that “I’ll do it when I’m ready” mantra on repeat, but here’s the truth: You’ll never feel 100% ready for change. Waiting for the perfect moment, which always seems to be next Monday, to feel prepared is like waiting for your soul mate randomly come rescue you from a fire breathing dragon—it’s not happening. Unless you’re Rapunzel! If you’re still holding onto the belief that there’s going to be a perfect time to take the leap, grrrl, let me burst that bubble. Change doesn’t wait for you to feel ready—it happens when you decide it’s time to level up. Think of fall as your gentle reminder. Just like the trees don’t wait to feel ready to drop their leaves, you don’t need to wait until you feel 100% confident to make a move. The season brings a built-in opportunity to embrace change, and if the world is literally shifting around you, why not shift with it? We’ve all been there: staring down a massive change, whether it’s a new job, a career switch, or even a lifestyle overhaul, and feeling overwhelmed before we even start. The key here? Micro goals. Don’t try to eat the whole cake in one bite or put your donkey in the cart before you put the wheel on or whatever they say. Instead, break your goals into smaller, bite-sized steps. For example, if you’re thinking about switching careers, you don’t need to quit your job tomorrow. Start by researching industries you’re interested in. Then, reach out to people in those fields. Next, maybe take an online course or brush up on those interview skills. Each tiny step builds momentum and brings you closer to that big change without feeling like you’ve jumped off a cliff.

Embrace The Evolution

It’s easy to convince ourselves that fear means we’re not ready, but fear is just part of the process. It’s not a sign you should stop. In fact, if you’re a little scared, that probably means you’re doing something right. Here’s where we flip the script: instead of trying to feel ready, focus on feeling brave. Bravery and readiness are two totally different things. You don’t need to have everything perfectly lined up before you leap. Imagine if we waited to feel 100% sure about every decision. I would probably never leave the house or get anything done because I never really know what I’m doing! No thoughts, just vibes. But that’s okay because overthinking killed the confidence! (I just made that up, but it’s true!) The best decisions, the boldest changes, happen when we step forward with courage, even when doubt is being a little bully in our ear. Let’s go with another example! This past weekend, I held my first #GrrrlsNightOut event and I had to speak in front of a crowded restaurant filled with all new grrrlfrens and it was absolutely TERRIFYING! Like my tummy was bringing home the gold doing Olympic gymnastics! Every part of me was screaming, “You’re not ready!” But then I got up there, picked up the microphone, and somehow pulled it off. If I can find the courage to interrupt the appetizers, you can do anything you set your mind to as well. You might even enjoy it, and you definitely grow from it. That’s the kind of unprepared bravery we’re talking about. Let go of the idea that you have to execute your transformation flawlessly. You will make mistakes along the way, you’ll trip up, and sometimes you’ll question your choices. That’s not failure; it’s feedback. Embrace the mess, and you’ll find that your growth is happening even when things feel a little chaotic.

Good Vibes Only

Who you surround yourself with when you’re embracing change makes all the difference. We all have those friends who encourage us to stay in our comfort zone. They mean well, but if you’re making a bold move, you need people in your corner who will support and cheer you on. This is where your “grrrlfrenns” come in handy. Find people who are also going through changes or who have done what you’re trying to do. Whether that’s a supportive friend, a mentor, or even an online community, having people who understand the process and encourage your growth will help you stay focused when things get tough. Think of it like going to the gym. Eww, I know. Sure, you could work out alone, but when you’ve got a workout buddy pushing you, suddenly you’re lifting more than you thought you could and time is flying because you are actually having fun. Change works the same way, you need emotional spotters to help you through the heavy lifts. You also need to recognize when certain relationships might be holding you back, even if they’re not doing it intentionally. Sometimes, people around you can project their own fears or insecurities onto you, and without even realizing it, you might start doubting yourself because of their energy. It’s not that they don’t care—it’s just that not everyone is equipped to handle or understand the boldness of your vision. That’s why it’s crucial to curate your circle when you’re stepping into a new chapter. You want those “grrrlfrenns” who hype you up, remind you of your goals when you’re doubting yourself, and aren’t afraid to tell you to get back up when you stumble. The people who will help you grow are the ones who see your transformation before you do, and they’ll hold space for you to grow into it, even when you’re questioning yourself. Surround yourself with the ones who see your power and want to help you own it.

One of the most powerful tools you can use when embracing change is visualization. Visualizing the next version of yourself isn’t just daydreaming—it’s a way of helping your brain start to believe in the possibility of that change. Take a few minutes each day to picture yourself in the middle of the change you’re embracing. How does it feel? What are you wearing? What’s your day-to-day life like? The more you can see yourself in that future reality, the more your brain starts to accept that it’s possible for you. A little caterpillar might not know exactly what it’s going to look like post-cocoon, but if it could visualize itself with wings, wouldn’t that make the transformation process a little less terrifying? You’ve got to start seeing your future self, wings and all, to believe that you can get there. One of the hardest parts of change is believing that good things can and will happen for you. We’ve been conditioned to prepare for the worst, right? That whole “don’t get your hopes up” mentality has been drilled into us since we were kids. But here’s the thing: you don’t manifest greatness by expecting the worst. Start telling yourself that good things are possible for you. Not in a “cross your fingers and hope” kind of way, but in a “I deserve this, and I’m ready to receive it” way. When you start believing in your own ability to create and attract positive change, you’ll notice opportunities popping up that you might have missed before. Now go and be great you lil grrrly pop! TTYL!