#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS it is officially Women’s History Month, which means we are all being reminded to celebrate the impact and legacy of women who paved the way. But let’s be real. Black grrrls have been making history long before there were months dedicated to recognizing it. We have been setting trends, shifting culture, and redefining what is possible for generations. The problem is that we are always expected to do it for everybody else. We are raised to pour into our communities, our families, our jobs, and the world. But when do we get to pour into ourselves. This month should not just be about looking back. It should be about reminding ourselves that we are worthy of celebration too. The world will have you thinking you need a million-dollar budget, a Parisian backdrop, and a soft violin soundtrack to live a life worth romanticizing. But the real tea is that the magic is in the way you see yourself. Black grrrls deserve to move through life like a main character, not a sidekick in somebody else’s story. And yet, we are constantly fed this idea that we have to be hustling, suffering, or struggling for our experiences to be meaningful. If we are not overcoming something, the world acts like our joy is not valid. But what if we decided that the everyday moments, the solo dates, deep belly laughs, random dance breaks, and even the way the sun hits our skin just right, are enough. What if we gave ourselves the space to enjoy life for what it is instead of feeling like we always have something to prove. Romanticizing your life is not about faking perfection. It is about reclaiming your own story and choosing to see your life as special because it already is.

Since it is Women’s History Month, there will be plenty of conversations about the women who paved the way, broke barriers, and left their mark on the world. And while that is important, history is not just about the people in textbooks. Every woman, in her own way, is writing a story that matters. The problem is, too many of us go through life feeling like background characters, waiting for the perfect moment to finally take up space. Maybe it is because we were taught to play small. Maybe it is because we spent too long prioritizing everyone else. But what if we decided that our own stories deserve just as much attention and care as the ones we celebrate this month. Romanticizing your life is not about turning everything into a perfectly curated movie montage. It is about deciding that your everyday moments matter just as much as the big milestones. You do not need a dream vacation, a glow up, or some picture perfect moment to start acting like the main character. You already are. When you start seeing yourself that way, everything changes. You move with more confidence, you appreciate the little things, and you stop waiting for permission to make your life feel special. The main character is not the one who has it all figured out. She is the one who owns her story, treats herself like she is worth the hype, and decides that even the simple moments like a solo coffee run, a fresh outfit, or blasting your favorite song deserve to feel cinematic.

Lights, Camera, You

So many of us wait for something exciting to happen before we start acting like our lives are worth celebrating. We assume we need a new job, a relationship, a complete glow up, or some major life change before we can start feeling like the main character. But the truth is, nothing outside of you is going to flip that switch. Romanticizing your life starts with how you see yourself. It is about deciding that the little things matter just as much as the big ones. It is the way you sip your coffee like you are in a movie scene, the way you step out feeling like the baddest grrrl on the block, and the way you create moments of joy just because you deserve them. The energy you bring to your daily life is what makes it feel special. Instead of waiting for the perfect moment, start treating every moment like it is already enough.Think about your favorite movie or TV show. The main character is not just sitting around, waiting for the plot to happen. She is in it. She is walking through the city with music in her headphones like she owns the world. She is taking herself out for a nice meal because she does not need a reason to enjoy her own company. She is having deep, meaningful conversations with her friends, laughing at things that would not even be funny if she were alone. She is not just existing. She is living. Now imagine if you gave yourself that same treatment. What if you stopped seeing your life as something to get through and started seeing it as something worth indulging in. What if you romanticized your own presence instead of waiting for someone else to do it for you. The best part about main character energy is that it does not require a major life upgrade. It is about appreciating what is already there. Instead of rushing through your morning, you slow down and actually enjoy getting ready. Instead of eating lunch at your desk, you step outside and take a deep breath of fresh air. Instead of throwing on whatever outfit is clean, you put on something that makes you feel like that grrrl, even if you are just running errands. It is in the little moments that we start to feel like our own lives are worth celebrating. When you bring int

Setting The Scene

You do not have to wait for someone else to spice up your life and set the scene for something amazing to happen. You get to create the vibe yourself. Romanticizing your life is not just about how things look. It is about how they feel. The quickest way to step into main character energy is to bring intention into your everyday routine. Instead of just going through the motions, you start making small shifts that make each moment feel more special. The easiest way to start is by curating your own personal soundtrack. There is a reason music can instantly change your mood. The right playlist can turn a simple commute into a moment of reflection, a morning routine into a confidence boost, and a late-night cleaning session into a full concert. Next time you get ready, throw on a playlist that makes you feel like the baddest grrrl alive. When you are walking to the train or driving to work, play something that makes you feel powerful. Even mundane tasks like washing dishes or folding laundry hit different when you are singing at the top of your lungs. It is not about forcing yourself to enjoy things you do not like. It is about making those things feel better. Beyond music, think about small details that make your everyday life feel more enjoyable. If your space feels dull, switch up your surroundings. Add fresh flowers to your desk, light a candle with your favorite scent, or rearrange your space in a way that feels more inviting. If your mornings feel rushed and chaotic, try waking up ten minutes earlier so you can move with ease instead of stress. If your nighttime routine consists of scrolling aimlessly until you pass out, swap it out for something that actually makes you feel good, like reading, journaling, or even just stretching before bed. The point is not to create a routine that looks good for social media. It is about creating one that actually makes you feel good.

Show Up And Show Out

The secret to main character energy is not about waiting for something exciting to happen. It is about making the decision to show up for yourself every single day, no matter what is going on around you. One of the best ways to do this is by getting clear on what makes you feel good and actually making time for it. When was the last time you did something just because it brought you joy. Not because it was productive. Not because it looked good on paper. Just because it made you feel happy and at peace. It could be as simple as taking yourself out for dinner, dancing in your room like nobody is watching, or spending the afternoon doing absolutely nothing without feeling guilty about it. When you start prioritizing the things that make you feel like your best self, life stops feeling like something you have to get through and starts feeling like something you actually get to enjoy. Showing up for yourself also means speaking to yourself like you are the main character. You would not watch your favorite show and root for the main character to fail, so why would you do that to yourself. The way you talk to yourself matters. If you are constantly telling yourself that you are not good enough, that you will never get where you want to be, or that you do not deserve nice things, then of course life is going to feel dull. Main character energy means hyping yourself up, being patient with your growth, and allowing yourself to take up space. It is reminding yourself that you are worthy of love, success, and happiness even when things do not feel perfect. Treat yourself the way you would if you were the star of your favorite movie. Would main character you settle for less than they deserve. Would main character you put up with energy that drains them. Would main character you hide their personality because they are afraid of being too much. The version of you who is fully tapped into their story does not shrink to make other people comfortable. They do not dim their light just to fit in. They make moves that align with the life they want because they know they deserve to live fully and unapologetically.

Romanticizing your life is not about pretending everything is perfect. It is about deciding that even the smallest moments deserve attention, care, and celebration. It is about seeing yourself as the star of your own story instead of waiting for someone else to recognize your worth. Too often, we are taught that life is something to get through instead of something to actually enjoy. We tell ourselves that we will start living once we have more money, more time, or a better reason to celebrate. But the truth is, life is happening right now, and every single moment deserves to be felt fully. The main character is not the person with the most exciting life. She is the one who chooses to see her life as something special. She is the one who makes even the simplest routines feel magical. She is the one who understands that she does not need to change anything about herself to start living fully. Main character energy is not about waiting for the perfect moment. It is about creating it. It is about making your morning routine feel like a ritual, your walks feel like a cinematic moment, and your everyday tasks feel like something worth savoring. You do not need a major life change to start seeing yourself as someone worthy of love, care, and appreciation. You just have to decide that you are worth showing up for. The best part is, this is only the beginning. Once you start treating your life like it is something worth celebrating, it becomes easier to keep that energy going. So go romanticize your morning coffee, put on your best playlist, and start treating yourself like the main character you have always been. Now go and be great, you lil grrrly pop! TTYL!