#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS We talk a lot about growth like it’s a destination. Like one day you’ll just wake up feeling like the best version of yourself, no questions, no hesitation, no awkward half-steps in between. But in reality? Growth is messy. It’s weird. It’s inconsistent. It looks like hyping yourself up one minute and spiraling in your Notes app the next. Been there, done that! It’s deleting all your selfies because you felt cute five seconds ago but now you’re overthinking your eyebrows. It’s saying yes to something new and then lying in bed that night wondering if everyone secretly thinks you were doing too much. This idea that we have to wait until we’re “ready” to become the version of ourselves we imagine is one of the biggest lies we’re sold. You don’t need a big life change or a clean slate or a rebrand. You don’t need a vacation, a glow-up, or a Pinterest board full of neutral-toned morning routines. You just need a moment of courage. That’s it. One small step, one little risk, one quiet decision to start showing up like the version of yourself you want to become. Even if your voice shakes. Even if you feel cringe. Even if no one else notices right away. Because the truth is, you already have everything you need. Becoming her isn’t about arrival, it’s about alignment. It’s about trusting that the small shifts count, even if they’re not on Instagram. It’s about giving yourself permission to try without knowing exactly what’s next. So if you’ve been waiting for a sign to start being that grrrl, consider this it!

So many of us put off our dreams and desires waiting for the “right” time, when what we really need is practice. We assume confidence will arrive first, but most of the time it only shows up after we’ve already taken the leap. We think we need more proof, more planning, more certainty before we allow ourselves to be bold. But what if all that overthinking is just another delay tactic? What if you’re not stuck, you’re just scared of looking silly while trying something new? Don’t worry, we all are! This blog post is your reminder that becoming your favorite self doesn’t have to be a major production. You don’t need a reinvention arc, a bunch of new clothes, or a big dramatic storyline to start living with intention. You just need to act on what you already know: that you’re allowed to try things before you’re perfect at them. That you’re allowed to take up space before you feel “ready.” That cringe is often just clarity in progress. Maybe you want to start walking with more confidence. Maybe you want to start going out alone. Maybe you want to experiment with your style, speak up more at work, post your thoughts online, or stop apologizing so much. Whatever it is, you’re not too late and you’re not too early. You’re exactly on time. This post is all about giving yourself permission to stop waiting for the polished version of you to show up and start becoming her through action. Small action. Quiet action. Sometimes even messy action. You don’t need a perfect plan. You just need to begin.

Fake It ‘Til You Feel It

Let’s clear something up right now, confidence isn’t something you magically unlock after a glow-up montage or a six-figure job. Although both sound nice! Most of the time, confidence comes from repetition, not revelation. You start doing the thing, you feel awkward and unsure, and then one day you look up and realize you’re not overthinking it anymore. You’re just doing it. That’s why waiting to feel “ready” can become a trap. It convinces you to keep shrinking, overpreparing, and stalling under the illusion that more planning equals more courage. But courage doesn’t come from certainty. It comes from trying, failing, and learning you’ll survive anyway. So if you’ve been stalling on becoming your “main character” self because your life doesn’t look the part yet, let this be a little reality check. The people you admire for being bold, stylish, outgoing, or successful? They started small too. At some point, they were also practicing how to show up for themselves without an audience. They also had to deal with the nerves, the awkwardness, the inner voice whispering, “Who do you think you are?” And they probably didn’t silence that voice, they just acted anyway. You’re allowed to do the same. You’re allowed to start stepping into your power even if you still feel like an imposter. You’re allowed to speak up even if your voice shakes. You’re allowed to take selfies, wear outfits you like, try new hobbies, or create content even if no one gets it at first. You don’t need a new wardrobe or a new friend group to start living like someone who matters. You already matter. This is about redefining what it means to “start.” It doesn’t have to be public. It doesn’t have to be loud. It doesn’t even have to be fully thought out. It just has to be yours. You can start by saying yes to things that excite you. You can start by saying no to things that drain you. You can start by practicing bravery in moments so small they seem invisible to everyone else. That’s where the real transformation begins! And if the idea of being seen still freaks you out, remind yourself that you don’t have to be seen by everyone. You just need to be seen by you. The more you show up for yourself, the more natural it becomes.

Start Where You Are

One of the biggest myths about personal growth is that it has to look impressive. That it needs to be aesthetic, curated, or tied up in some inspirational quote. But real growth is awkward. It’s messy. It looks like showing up to the gym in a stretched-out t-shirt and doing two reps before realizing you don’t know how to adjust the machine. It looks like fumbling your way through a creative project you swore you’d start six months ago. It looks like sending a text and overthinking it for 24 hours. The point is: nobody posts this part, but this part still counts. When you hold off on starting something because you think you need to be “better” first, you end up delaying your own progress. You don’t get better before you start, you get better by starting. So, get out of your own way!! Superstar coming through! That version of you with the polished routine, the clear skin, the confidence, the camera-ready lifestyle? She doesn’t exist without the version of you who’s fumbling through it now. The sooner you stop judging your starting point, the sooner you can actually move forward. So much of the fear around beginning comes from comparison. You see someone else doing what you want to do and assume they’ve always been that way. But you didn’t see the learning curve, the embarrassment, the internal doubt they had to work through. You’re comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle. And it’s unfair to you, because it makes your progress feel like a failure when it’s actually a win. Just because it’s slow doesn’t mean it’s not working. The truth is, the sooner you embrace where you are, the less pressure you’ll feel to perform. You don’t have to play catch-up with someone else’s journey. You just have to commit to yours. Whether it’s deciding to eat better, speak up at work, or just give yourself permission to rest, that decision matters, because it’s aligned with who you’re becoming. And when it feels like you’re not doing enough, remember this: starting small is still starting. And starting without a plan is still better than waiting on perfect circumstances that may never come. Don’t let the need to impress keep you from making progress!

Consistency Over Aesthetics

We hear a lot about “staying consistent” like it’s supposed to be easy. But the truth is, consistency isn’t just about willpower, it’s about removing the pressure to be perfect. It’s about showing up on the days you don’t feel cute, don’t feel clear, don’t feel like anyone’s watching. It’s less about having a flawless routine and more about having your own back when it would be easier to quit. The gag is, building momentum doesn’t feel like a glow-up. It feels like repetition. And is honesty super annoying. Like trying something that doesn’t work and adjusting without making it mean something about your worth. It feels like logging into your journal, your calendar, your workout app, and doing the same thing again. Every time you stay committed to something you care about, you are deepening your relationship with yourself. It’s not for show. It’s for you. There will be days you feel behind. Days you don’t see the point. Days when the things you’ve been working on feel invisible or slow. But don’t let the lack of visible results convince you to back down. The real change is happening beneath the surface in your mindset, your patterns, and your resilience. You’re showing yourself that your decisions don’t have to be dictated by anxiety or fear or shame. If you need structure, build it. Not because someone on the internet told you what their 5AM routine looks like, but because you know what makes your life easier. That might mean batch-cooking meals or setting reminders to drink water. It might mean blocking off time in your calendar to journal, to rest, or to simply not be available. The routine doesn’t need to be aesthetic, it needs to work. It needs to hold space for who you are now, not just who you hope to become. And if you break the routine, that doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Missing a day or two isn’t a reason to throw the whole thing away. This isn’t about perfection, it’s about proof. Every time you start again, you’re reinforcing the belief that you’re worth the effort. That your goals are worth pursuing, even in your messiest moments. So don’t wait to be flawless. Don’t wait to be finished. You just need to remember that consistency looks different on everyone. And yours is already enough.

You are not behind. You are not late. You are not invisible. You are a grrrl in progress, in motion, in bloom even if it feels like nobody sees it yet. The version of you that you’re working toward isn’t out of reach. She’s already inside you, waiting for you to give her a little more space each day with one small, brave choice at a time. Let this be the reminder that it’s okay if things feel slow. It’s okay if you don’t always know what you’re doing. It’s okay if you’re still figuring out how to trust yourself again. That doesn’t mean you’re lost, it means you’re learning how to take up space in your own life, without needing a reason or a reveal. This is the soft launch. The test run. The character development arc before the big plot twist. You don’t owe anyone a glow-up. What you do deserve is peace. You’re allowed to build that version of life one step at a time, in sweatpants, without the pressure to look like you have it all together. You’re allowed to be the main character before your moment arrives. Not because you faked it, but because you kept showing up anyway. Whatever you’re working on, whatever you’re dreaming of, it doesn’t have to be perfect before it’s powerful. Keep choosing yourself even when no one else sees the vision yet. It’s still valid. It’s still real. And it’s still worth it. Now go and be great you lil grrrly pop! TTYL!