#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS CONGRATULATIONS! It has officially been NINE MONTHS since we restarted our radical self-care journey together! That is soo crazy to me, I mean that’s literally long enough to have birthed a whole baby! It’s a grrrl!! I’m not only completely shocked, but I am also extremely proud. Like beyond proud of all of us, because we are for sure beating those inconsistent claims! Looking back on our time together it feels like it all happened really fast. I remember writing the first blog post back on a paper towel with an expo marker because I didn’t want to lose my sudden inspiration to get back on the horse and try again. This process has been difficult, but through the good times and the bad times we made sure to make working on ourselves a fun process. It has always been a life goal of mine to make a true positive difference in the world and I look at our time together as my mark! I love helping the grrrlies, making soo many new and genuinely supportive friends. I feel like I have really grown and I hope that you have been able to as well. But I must confess, one of the random things that I wasn’t expecting to suck about going on a radical self-care journey is that I feel like I am starting to outgrow places and things that once made me feel comfortable… like my closet! It’s absolutely no secret that I have a shopping addiction but lately I have been swiping my card without a clue! (Sorry Dad) I am not the grrrl I once was and I am not yet the grrrl that I want to become, so how the heck am I supposed to know what to wear??

When it comes to personal style, many of us tend to think of it as a fixed thing—something we discover once and then stick with for life. But the truth is, just like we evolve as people, so does our personal style. Finding your look is less about stumbling upon a one-time “Eureka!” moment and more about consistently tuning into yourself as you change and grow. What worked for you before might feel soo yesterday to you now, and that’s okay. Style is supposed to reflect you—not some static version of yourself. I know if I am feeling a little fashion challenged lately my grrrls need a little style advice too! So, for my special nine month anniversary present from me to you I brought in an expert! The scientists, aka yours truly, over at Get Real Inc. sat down with fashion guru and certified grrrlfren Carlene Miller to help the grrrlies go over some fashion tips to help keep things fresh and to continue to feel fabulous. In this post, we’re going to dive into how you can discover your personal style, keep it authentic, and allow it to evolve as you go through different seasons of life. Spoiler alert: It’s not about following trends or buying a new wardrobe every few months. It’s about finding what makes you feel like you and embracing change as part of the process. Ready to upgrade that wardrobe with some real strategy? Let’s gooo grrrl!

Feel Good, Look Good

We’ve all been there. You see a killer outfit on Instagram or on someone else IRL, and you think, “That’s it. That’s the look I need.” You snag it, try it on, and it looks… just okay? Sure, it checks all the trend boxes, but something feels off. Fashion faux-NAH! The key to finding your personal style starts with noticing how your clothes make you feel, not just how they look. Sometimes, what’s hot right now doesn’t align with who you are or what makes you feel confident. Maybe that structured blazer or tight bodycon dress looks great on the hanger, but the moment you wear it, you’re uncomfortable or constantly fidgeting. If something doesn’t feel right, it won’t look right either, no matter how trendy or expensive it is. Start paying attention to those moments when you feel good in what you’re wearing. Take mental notes: Is it the fabric? The color? The fit? Do certain pieces make you feel more at ease, more yourself? Those are the things you want to keep an eye out for, because style isn’t just about looking good; it’s about owning who you are and showing up with confidence. A great exercise here is to take stock of your closet and pull out your favorite pieces—the ones you gravitate toward when you’re rushing out the door, or the ones that you know you’ll always feel good in, even on those “I have nothing to wear” days. Lay them out and see if you notice any patterns. Do you tend to reach for flowy fabrics or structured ones? Neutrals or bold colors? Casual or put-together? Let these small revelations guide your style choices moving forward.

I’ll Buy Anything Once

Personal style is an ongoing experiment, and that’s a good thing. It’s like when you try out a new recipe, sometimes it’s giving chef bae other times it’s giving let’s just order take out. The same goes for clothes. As you grow and change, your style should grow and change too. Don’t feel boxed in by what used to work for you, and don’t be afraid to experiment, even if it feels like a risk. We all go through phases, and our style should reflect that. You’re evolving in your career, your social life, and your relationships, so why wouldn’t your wardrobe evolve too? Maybe you’re stepping into a more professional role and need pieces that reflect that. I see you grrrl boss!! Or maybe you’re becoming more attuned to sustainability and want to shift toward ethical fashion choices. Either way, experimentation is key. The trick to evolving your style while staying true to yourself is to experiment with purpose. Instead of buying the latest trend just because it’s “in,” ask yourself if it aligns with who you are or who you’re becoming. For example, if you’ve always been drawn to minimalist, clean lines, trying out neon crop tops might feel forced (and lead to more clothes sitting in your closet with the tags still on). But experimenting with a new silhouette or adding a pop of color to your neutral wardrobe? That feels more intentional and more in line with your authentic self. Try setting small style challenges for yourself. Maybe one week, you experiment with different accessories—hats, jewelry, scarves—and see how they change up your everyday looks. Another week, you could play around with different textures—mixing leather with knits, for example. This way, you’re exploring your style without feeling overwhelmed or stuck in a trend trap.

New Me, New Wardrobe

One of the hardest parts about evolving your personal style is knowing when to let go of pieces that no longer feel like you. It never feels like the right time to say goodbye! Break ups are hard, but throwing away your favorite pair of shoes?? SOO much harder! We’ve all been there though, hanging on to clothes that we wore to death but haven’t touched in ages. Maybe because it holds sentimental value, or maybe you just can’t quite figure out why it doesn’t feel right anymore. Holding onto pieces that no longer align with who you are today just creates clutter physically, mentally, and emotionally if you are a shopaholic. Guilty as charged! Letting go of clothes doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past or losing part of yourself. It means you’re making room for growth and embracing the person you’re becoming. Style is fluid, and as you evolve, so should your wardrobe. To start, try doing a closet clean out at least once a season. Take everything out and assess each piece. Ask yourself, “Does this still feel like me? Do I love wearing this?” If the answer is no, it’s time to let it go. Donate it, sell it, or swap it with friends—whatever helps you clear space for pieces that reflect who you are right now. On the flip side, be kind to yourself and allow room for experimentation. Not everything in your wardrobe has to be perfect or deeply meaningful. Some pieces will be transitional, and that’s okay. You don’t need to have everything figured out at once. The goal is to build a wardrobe that evolves with you, not one that’s stuck in the past. A bonus tip here? Keep a small section of your wardrobe for “wild cards”—those experimental pieces you’re not 100% sure about yet but want to give a shot. As you continue to evolve, these wild cards might become your new staples, or they might not. Either way, you’re allowing yourself to grow without pressure.

Your personal style is more than just clothes, it’s an extension of who you are, how you see yourself, and how you want to present yourself to the world. And just like you’re not the same person you were five years ago, your wardrobe shouldn’t be either. It’s a journey, and there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to do it. Remember, finding your personal style isn’t about perfection or fitting into someone else’s box. It’s about tuning into yourself, giving yourself the freedom to experiment, and letting your wardrobe evolve as you do. Whether you’re someone who loves bold prints or prefers neutral tones, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution—just a process of discovering and rediscovering what makes you feel like the best version of yourself. So go ahead and get dressed, grrrly pop—your style is waiting to evolve with you! If you need any more clothing tips, fresh fashion advice, or outfit inspo, you can join the conversation about evolving your personal style when Grrrl, Get Real goes LIVE with Carlene Miller for our fifth episode of #GrrrlsNightIn🪩🍸 TONIGHT on Instagram at 7:00PM EST! Now go and be great you lil grrrly pop! TTYL!