#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS It’s been one of those daaaaaaaays. I love coming on here and spreading positivity and cheer like a little grrrly pop Santa, but Saint Nick isn’t real, and I don’t believe in faking it! Ho, ho, NO way! I mean don’t get me wrong, I feel like a lot of things have been really going my way lately and a lot of the things that I thought were scary are actually coming naturally and effortlessly, but that’s not the problem. The “problem” is that it’s fueling my inner bad ass and making me want to push the envelope on a few situations that currently have me all the way twisted. Let me rephrase this, I don’t think this is a problem per se! I actually view this as me coming out of my shy grrrly cocoon and speaking up for myself, which is inevitable when you are on a radical-self care journey. We have been consistently working to push ourselves to feel more comfortable taking up space and creating lives where we can feel free to be our authentic selves. Long story short, you are not the same grrrl you were yesterday or the day before. Our price has gone up and it’s time to make people pay!!! *And by pay a mean respect our new boundaries, not form an angry mob or something although that sounds like it could be fun.

Something that I still struggle with is the line between Bitch and Bad Ass, excuse my French this week grrrls. Parlez vous fed up?? Believe it or not, I’m a nice grrrl through and through, I’m not even joking that I called my parents after I killed a fly because I felt really really bad after. So imagine when I actually have to check somebody irl?? It really takes a toll on me! My game plan before my radical self-care journey was pretty much avoid avoid avoid, but I fear if I bite my tongue any longer it might snap off and that sucks because how am I supposed to talk to my grrrls?? The friction between the way I would like to be treated and the way that I am currently being treated is reaching an all time high. In scientific terms, if you turn up the heat eventually things will reach a boiling point and right now it’s giving volcanic eruption. This week I want to dedicate time to talk about this, because I know if I’m going through it soo are my grrrls and I want you to be prepared to stand up for yourselves in areas of your life where you feel like people are not respecting you. I don’t want us to get mad, I want us to get clear on our boundaries and effectively communicate them so that we can go back to laughing and having fun!!

Bring The Beat In

The first piece of advice I have for standing up for yourself will come as a shock but it is actually to try to take a beat and give yourself time to think. This can look like walking away from a situation, distracting yourself with something more important, or immediately retreating to your happy place to calm down. I know what you are thinking, you did NOT just wind us all up to go to battle just to tell us to retreat. Grrrls, we are at WAR, which means learning how to pick your battles. And having the eye of the tiger! We have to think strategically, which takes time! Nothing bad can come from taking a beat to think things through and come up with the best course of action. We can’t go in there all guns a blazing in the name of all that is grrrly! I mean we can… but will it serve us or is it just an intrusive thought gone wild?? This is why you need time to think about the situation! Removing yourself from the situation allows your nervous system to regulate, your brain to see things from multiple perspectives, and for you to remove heightened emotions and look at things objectively. Trust me, if you are a person that already has a hard time with conflict the last thing you are going to want to do is curse somebody out as an act of passion and then realize that the crime didn’t fit the punishment. Now, this is not to try to talk you out of standing up for yourself or convince you that you are being dramatic. I will always be the first person to tell you that your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel them, as long as you are not hurting yourself or anyone else. You have to practice the power of discernment, which will get easier the more that you do it. Just ask yourself, is this worth my time and how much time is it worth? Somethings can be worth addressing but not worth all of your energy, this is completely up to you! It’s your life and YOU make the rules!!

Get To The Point

My favorite hobby? Practicing confrontation in the bathroom mirror! In all honesty I am sooo overprepared for fights or conflict that will probably never happen it’s insane… or am I going insane? Did my reflection just clapback? And why does she have a point?? If you are anything like me, overthinking might be your default mode, but the good news is that it can be harnessed for good! As funny as practicing talking points sounds I think that this is actually a good tactic for starting to stand up for yourself!! Hear me out, you don’t have to write a five page script on what everyone is supposed to say (like me) but I think it is a good idea to get clear on what you want to communicate. Conflict is scary and unpredictable! Someone could throw a curveball out of nowhere that takes you off your A-game and makes you strike out. There is nothing worse than leaving a confrontation feeling like you lowkey wasted your opportunity to set your boundaries because you got stage fright. Here’s how to hit a home run every time! All of that smack you were talking in the mirror by yourself? Yeah… go head and leave that in there. No one is going to let you talk about their bald headed granny for twenty minutes straight, it’s just not realistic, so you have to get to the point. In five bullet points or less, what does this person need to know about what they did, why it was wrong, how it made you feel, and how you would appreciate them never ever ever doing it again. Like this, “Hey stinkabutt! Last week when you made a joke about how cakey my make-up was I didn’t appreciate that because actually my face was snatched. It was my first time trying something new so when you made that comment it made me feel like you were trying to play me out. I would appreciate it if you would keep your comments to yourself and mind your own make-up bag! MMMmmmmmKAY??” Okay, maybe a little less attitude but I am not Mother Theresea, I’m literally just a grrrl!!

Stand On Business

Grrrl, you didn’t come all this way just to let things slide! You’ve worked WAAAAY too hard to let anyone undermine your progress. Standing up for yourself isn’t just about setting boundaries; it’s about honoring the blood, sweat, and tears you’ve poured into becoming who you are today. It’s a radical act of self-care because you’re safeguarding your peace, your worth, and your future. When you stand on business, you’re saying, “I know what I deserve, and I won’t accept anything less.” Perioddddt! Now that you’ve finally found the confidence to speak up, don’t let anyone or anything shake you. This isn’t just a moment—it’s the start of a movement. You’re standing up not just for yourself, but for every version of you that was waiting for the strength to make a difference. You’re not just defending your current self, you’re protecting the future you’ve worked so hard to build, which means that you have a lot of grrrlies counting on you! So stand firm, speak your truth, and don’t back down. This is your time to make it clear that you’re here to stay, and you won’t be pushed around. Don’t back down. You are more than deserving of feeling comfortable being yourself, and you deserve the respect that comes with it. When you stand on business, you’re letting everyone know that you’re not to be messed with. So own it, speak your truth, and protect what’s yours—you’ve come too far to let anyone take that away.

Standing up for yourself is an essential part of living the life you deserve. It’s not just about setting boundaries; it’s about honoring your journey and the work you’ve put in to become who you are. Each time you assert yourself, you’re reinforcing your value and making it clear that you won’t settle for less. It might not always be easy, but it’s worth it. When you protect your peace and stand firm in what you’ve built, you’re taking control of your narrative and refusing to let anyone else dictate your path. It’s about more than just speaking up in the moment, it’s about cultivating a life where you feel respected, secure, and confident in every decision you make. This is your journey, your growth, and your evolution. Every time you stand up for yourself, you’re making a powerful statement: that you’re worthy of respect, that your voice matters, and that you’re not afraid to claim the space you deserve. So keep pushing forward, keep setting those boundaries, and keep honoring yourself. The more you stand up for yourself, the more you’ll realize just how strong you are and that strength will carry you through anything life throws your way! Now go and be great you lil grrrly pop! TTYL!