#HEYGRRRLFRENNNS First and foremost HAPPY JUNETEENTH! Second and not foremost, the sun is out and she did NOT come to play! This is my first summer pushing myself to leave the safety of my air conditioned room to actually go outside, and it’s actually been nice. I mean I feel like I am about to melt probably two hundred percent of the time, but that’s okay I’m here for a good time, not a long time like frosty the snowman but more glamorous. HAAAAPPY BIRTHDAAAAY! Anyways, this season feels like it’s buzzing with opportunities to kiki, laugh, and spread good vibes! I always feel like I am writing a hallmark card when I am describing my positive vibes only summer mentality but I can’t help it!! If being annoyingly happy is a crime lock me up and throw away the key… and then pick it back up and let me out because I already know I am too soft for jail. 

Enjoying this summer filled with fun and fresh possibilities does make me think about the dark ages, aka the days when I was too depressed to do anything or too shy for any real social interaction. I don’t look back on those moments and get mad at myself for not forcing myself to do things I wasn’t ready for, and I am not telling you grrrls to do that either, but for those who starting to feel like they are ready to spread their wings and fly this week I want to talk about how to make that process a little easier. So lately, if you’ve been feeling like you’ve been stuck on the sidelines, consider this your golden ticket to join the party, have some fun, and let your inner social butterfly soar!

Hostess With The Mostess

Why wait for an invitation to be social when you create the moment yourself? This piece of advice is literally solid gold maybe even genius if you think about it. The scary part about becoming a social butterfly is this little thing called the fear of the unknown. When you host your own party, you have the ability to exercise a little more control over the situation, which allows you maximum opportunity to slowly dip your toe in and minimize your chances of belly flopping. You control the guest list, you control the music, and most importantly you control the snacks. Grrrls gotta eat!  Of course even at a small house gathering, we can’t know for sure how everything is going to play out but you can find comfort in being on your own turf… and having the ability to kick everyone out if it gets a lil too buck wild up in there! Start small with casual get-togethers like a regular degular hang out, maybe a chill movie night, or if you have good sportsmanship (unlike me) you could do a game night. As you get more comfortable, you can always plan bigger like themed events, small hobby parties, or even weekend getaways with your grrrls. Don’t stress about everything being perfect—focus on feeling comfortable and having fun! After all, it’s the memories and connections that matter most!

YAASSS Qween!

This next one is for the grrrls who would rather swallow a jean jacket than play hostess. I love having my friends over but I get it, there is a fine line between grrrls nights and squatters’ rights. Get outta my swamp!!! So if sending invites isn’t your style then accepting them should be! Push yourself to embrace the power of the word “yes.” Got invited to go make pottery with the grrrls? Say yes! Got a last minute invite to play hockey? Say PUCK YES! Someone invites you to their vacation in the Maldives? Say yes and ask if I can be your plus one!! The more you open yourself up to new experiences, the more you’ll find yourself in situations where you can meet new people and create lasting memories. The key is to be open minded, try to limit your expectations, and ready for anything. When you start taking a chance and saying yes more, the universe will have no choice but to match your energy and unfold in the most beautiful ways. I do have to add a lil disclaimer to this one though to make sure that the grrrlies stay safe. Make sure you are saying yes to the things YOU want to do and that YOU feel comfortable doing. There is nothing wrong with testing the limits on your comfort zone but breaking a boundary is a radical self-care no-no! Do not place yourself or others in danger or harms way, look both ways before you cross the street, and keep all hands and feet inside the vehicle at all times!

You Got It, Now Flaunt It

We are born with something that makes us special, it’s called your uniqueness! If I had a bottom dollar, or knew what that was, I would bet that everybody has at least one if not multiple varying and completely diverse traits. It’s not just one quality that stands out either, it’s the unique way that all of your other common traits are combined together to make you YOU! Think of it like playing the slots in Vegas! Big money, big money! There are probably only a handful (read: millions bajillions) of characteristics that a person can have in this world, but how many people have hit your specific genetic jackpot? Yea, other people might be playing with the same hand, but no one has your poker face! I say all of this because confidence in being yourself is really the secret ingredient to becoming a social butterfly. Embrace your unique personality, and don’t be afraid to let it shine. Whether you’re quirky, introverted, or the life of the party, own it! When you’re comfortable in your own skin, it attracts people who appreciate and resonate with your vibe. Also, a little self-love goes a long way. I’m never going to be the grrrlfren to tell you not to treat yourself because I am a firm believer in retail therapy and that the grrrls are always deserving of a lil treat! So go get that outfit that makes you feel unstoppable, practice positive affirmations, change your hair fifty-leven times until you feel like a superstar and walk into every single room like you own it. Your energy and confidence will naturally draw people in, making it easier to strike up conversations and make new friends.

Being a social butterfly isn’t about trying to fit in with as many groups as possible, or worrying about making people like you, it’s about having the confidence to show up as your unique self and creating the opportunity to meet new genuine connections. When you radiate authentic energy, it naturally attracts people who want to be around you. It creates a ripple effect, making every social interaction a bit brighter and more meaningful. Every week, we talk about living life to the fullest, and becoming a social butterfly is just one more way to enrich your life and connect with others. So go out there, spread your wings, and let your vibrant energy light up every room you enter. Remember to take a moment to celebrate your journey from shy grrrl to socialite. Be excited about how far you’ve come and the fun experiences you’re going to have. Becoming a social butterfly is about embracing growth, stepping out of your comfort zone, and enjoying the ride. You’ve got this! Now go and be great you lil grrrly pop! TTYL!